Wednesday, March 3, 2021
If a person was not baptized during his life, did not want to unite himself with the Church of Christ, he is not remembered in the Church. But this does not mean that there is nothing we can do for the dead unbaptized. They can be remembered by praying in private (that is, at home or in church, but silently) and doing deeds of mercy for them. The Holy Fathers spoke about the permissibility of the private commemoration of the dead, who cannot be remembered in the Church.
A woman, his spiritual daughter, more than once came to the Optina elder Ambrose. And once she told him that the longer she lives, the worse it gets: she began to see in herself so many sins which she had not noticed before. And he told her to stand by the window and look at the sunbeam: “Do you see how much dust is rushing there? The sun lit it up. And if there were no ray, it would seem that the air in the room is completely clean. So it is in your soul: all this was before, but only you did not see, but now the grace of God illuminated it, and you saw yourself. Do not be embarrassed, but thank God for this. The beginning of salvation is to see your spiritual poverty." - Metropolitan Benjamin (Fedchenkov)